Forget what people say. Watch what they do.

My fellow men know this story well. You meet a girl with pretty eyes and a great body. Just like you, she loves to go hiking and you both share the guilty pleasure of having cannolis at that neat Italian place downtown. You already knew where you were going to take her on your first date, because she said she wants a "nice guy to settle down with," and that's exactly who you are!

But after she politely declines your offer, you later see her leaving that Italian place on the arm of the biker guy who isn't very nice and most certainly DOESN'T want to settle down.